Mom Genes

I often wonder if people are given certain talents at birth. I mean not everyone can become a world class athlete. Not everyone is going to win a gold medal because that would defeat the purpose of competing.

I often wonder if perhaps certain women are born with the mom gene? People who compete on a professional level have a love and a drive for what they are doing. Does the same thing apply for mothers?

In the grand scheme of things I don't enjoy mom things. I don't enjoy the sitting at sporting events and pretending it matters that my kid is playing. I don't enjoy oohing and ahhing over some art project that going to go into the trash at the end of the month. I don't enjoy the kid things. I enjoy my kids the most when they are sleeping or we are in the car and we are having a conversation over ignorant people or people's opinions.

Perhaps I am missing the mother gene, perhaps I wasn't meant to compete on a professional level.

I was on my favorite board a little while ago and there was a debate on motherhood. People waxed poetically about how much being a mother changed them for the better. This is where the trouble comes in...we as women(brainwashed much?) can not understand when motherhood does not fulfill another woman. We look down on a woman who doesn't wrap herself completely in her child. What happens if being a mother doesn't make you a "better" person? Does that mean you love your children any less?


I don't like being a mother when it is THE most important thing about me. I find it odd that women who don't work outside the home are snubbed and disregarded but the moment a women says she doesn't want to or does not enjoy being a mother people are horrified.

Having had a child or three squeeze out of my cooch isn't the end all to be all about me.

If you enjoy being a mother well...yeah and go meat for you!

Being a mother isn't how I define myself. It's not the thing that makes me all warm and fuzzy, quite often it just make me want to sleep.

While some of you may be clutching your pearls all aghast I could give less than 2 fucks really.

Your definition doesn't fit me, I won't go silently and happily into the box that makes you comfortable.

My children (with Goddess's blessing) will eventually go out into the world and make their mark. I will always be their mother, I will always love them, but they will become who they will become and my being their mother will not be the MOST important thing to them, I'm cool with that. I don't plan on letting being their mother be the MOST important thing to me...

Wow...I said that and the world didn't even come to an end... imagine that...