What comes first

When you want someone, you're with them for the first time what comes first fucking or making love? It's something to ponder so let us ponder it for a moment. Attraction is a seed that is planted, that eventually grows into so much more if given a chance to grow on its own.
If you're with someone for the first time, does the attraction that has grown intense cause you to grab hold and enjoy the ride? Or do you take your time and savor the first touch, the first kiss ,the first everything? Does fucking give way to the tenderness of making love? Does rough become gentle? Does the burning fire of longing turn into smoldering patience?
The first time only happens once, how do you choose, can you choose?